Life As Nick Starr

First off let me just say that this has been quite a frustrating weekend, and I apologize if I come off as angry or upset, but quite honestly…I am.

This past Thursday I went to 21st Amendment with a guy named Ben, who I had met 3 days earlier. We had gone out in The Castro and had some drinks, and were starting what would seem like my first real relationship ever…that is until all this shit has gone down.

I learned on our way to 21st Amendment that Ben had his final community service on Monday for 2 DUI’s he had gotten, and spent 5 days in jail. If I’m not mistaken I remember him mentioning this to my friend Melodi in the limo ride from 21st over to a party I thought she was invited to.

I am sort of setting the stage for what happened and will reply to some of the outrageous claims in a bit, sorry if the storyline is a bit disconnected right now, it will all come together in the end.

Melodi and I have been friends for a month or two now…maybe longer. We see each other out at parties and she has been one of the people I spend the most time with when I am out at the various tech events. She helped me thru my tough weekend (the one during the Mimosa Factory / very depressed weekend I had recently)…oh let me clarify right now where Tara Brown is a manipulative liar. Here is an excerpt from her blog post:

I had recently met Nick at the Mimosa Factory event that he organized.  When he introduced himself, the first words out of his mouth were that he wanted to commit suicide off the Golden Gate bridge.  Me and my companions all looked at each other in complete shock and didn’t have any idea how to respond.  Interestingly enough, a few days later, there were a bunch of tweets that Nick Starr has publicly tweeted that he wanted to kill himself .  I was later to find out that he has done this a bunch of times and its either a cry for some serious help or a publicity stunt.

Okay first off…it was the SAME DAY…not "a few days later," and as for the fact that I’ve done it a "bunch of times" that isn’t true either. I have wanted to kill myself quite a number of times in my life, and been in and out of the hospital for mental illness and depression. I’ve only posted on twitter that I wanted to kill myself and was driving on the bridge where I planned to do it one other time …not "a bunch of times."

See here is the thing about this Web 2.0 society that from the outside you may not see…there are too many self important, holier then thou, stuck up douchebags. Now don’t get me wrong, there are TONS of great people and some of my closest friends have come from tech events and parties, but there are too many backstabbing, conniving bitches.

Let me jump back into the story of that night and then later show some examples of the lies people tell.

So we arrive at this party. I wasn’t aware of whose house it was and quite honestly barely recognized Tara Brown, the host of the party. There were a bunch of people I did know, and a number which I didn’t. Eddie Codel who has known me longer then almost anyone in San Francisco was there and I remember watching McCain on Letterman on the couch in the living room with him then leaving as the party seemed to be winding down. We played Rock Band earlier in the night, sat around a fire out back, drank, and had a great time.

Ben and I got into a cab and headed back to my place where we spent the night. I woke up the next day and remembered putting my WHITE iPhone on the coffee table in the living room. I didn’t have it with me and that was the last place I remember seeing it. I send messages to Melodi, Eddie, and Coley trying to find out whose party it was, so I could contact them and meet up at some point in the day to get my phone.

I got Tara Brown’s name from a few people and proceeded to try to contact her. Her live.com email address, which I found when trying to google her bounced, so I checked to see if she was on Facebook. We communicated thru Facebook and Twitter. I asked if she had seen my iPhone it was a "white one with no case." She said she hadn’t and that her’s was gone as well and that her dog wasn’t feeling well. We replied a few more times, and I even told her that, "I hope your dog gets better." She said, "but it was a very small group of people and I know everyone very well except you and your friend. "

Here is another lie, because in her blog post she went back on Ben and I being the only people she didn’t know and said, "There were one or two people that I didn’t know but many people vouched for them. " She later went on to say, "I had recently met Nick at the Mimosa Factory event that he organized. " So it wasn’t JUST Ben and I who she didn’t know, there were others as well, but they (along with myself) were "vouched" for by others there.

She messaged me later in the day for Ben’s full name and address for the police report. I didn’t have this information…I had his phone number and A4A profile link, and gave that info to her. I was offline from about 2pm till later on that Friday night when my friend Kara Murphy let me use her iPhone to send a message to Tara via Twitter. My friend Denise Vardakas also let me use her phone later on in the night to check to see if there was a reply.

At the party was also Melodi who told me the last she had heard that the phones were returned to Tara’s place. I left the party shortly after and went over to Tara’s house. She was just leaving, and said she was heading to the police station. She yet again asked for Ben’s information and I hadn’t been able to get to my address book to get his phone number. Sean Bonner was there with as well, and started accusing me of stealing the phones. I tried to explain that …and this is the point that I think most people are TOTALLY MISSING…BUT I LOST MY FUCKING IPHONE TOO! They started to walk away, and then Sean came back and asked if I was coming there to return the phone and had them on me? He then patted my pocket and I was like, "all I have is my wallet" and showed him.

Oh yeah…here is another BLATANT LIE. She posted this on twitter, "Also, @seanbonner did NOT frisk him. More bullshit." YES HE DID! He invaded reached his hand out and ran it along my pocket. Why is Tara lying about so much in her "telling of the story? " Oh that’s right…remember when I said there were manipulative bitches in tech? That’s right…her name is Tara Brown.

Her entire post was spin and an accusatory post trying to make me to be the culprit… How can I be the culprit of my OWN GOD DAMN PHONE? I went to AT&T Saturday morning before the Soapbox races in Dolores Park to get a new sim card for an old Blackberry Curve I had in my closet which hasn’t been used in months.

Oh then let’s bring on the mob mentality of Tara’s friends.

Last I checked, Tara moved here in July 2008, or at least that is the info on her Facebook when she started with a company here after beng with a company in Redmond. I moved here just over a year ago …I am more "local" then she is.
Then comes the assault:

Really? Wait, I’m confused. I am the victim of a theft, yet you are going to "dissapear my ass" and then "beat the snot out of me"? Where I’m from, oh yeah…the United States of America, threats of physical violence are considered assault, a crime. I have done NOTHING but try to get my phone back and give information on someone who may or may not of taken the phones to another person who lost theirs as well, but no by all means keep up the threats of physical violence…and I’ll keep documenting them. If anyone is a criminal here, it is you dpdefillippo (aka J. Adam Moore).

Now let me reply to some of the comments left on her blog post.

Raines on October 18, 2008 Yipes! When I had a laptop stolen last year

Oh yeah…I’m sorry I forgot to mention that since I’ve moved to San Francisco, I’ve had my car broken into not once (where I lost my laptop and all my electronics), not twice (where I lost EVERYTHING ELSE BUT THE CLOTHES ON MY BACK), not three times (where I had my Harmon/Kardon iPod dash mount display stolen), but FOUR TIMES (where I had my entire car stolen and torched). I KNOW what is is like to have things stolen…I wouldn’t wish that feeling on anyone, and certainly wouldn’t steal from someone else. It is like being violated.

J. Adam Moore on October 18, 2008  When he first arrived, I overheard him talking to someone trying to convince them to come. The way he described his relationship with you guys over the phone was dismissive and uncaring.

J. Adam Moore (aka DieLaughing from the twiter post above) is a lying sack of shit. He is even more of a manapulative piece of shit then Tara is. Let me first explain that I DO NOT even have a voice plan with AT&T. I don’t talk on the phone…I text message ALL THE TIME, but NEVER DO I TALK ON THE PHONE. So he saying that I was "on the phone" is a total and complete lie.

Ada on October 18, 2008  A little detective work discovered this not so hidden blog post, which is quite telling on his nature of crooked schemes: http://www.nickstarr.com/2007/11/28/how-to-get-a-free-iphone-or-blackberry-curve/

If you EVER read my blog, I would ALL THE TIME post about deals or special links to reduced prices on items. I was even offered a job blogging for a "Deal" site. I love finding great deals and passing the information along to friends. The method I described wasn’t "crooked" at all. I informed people that Amazon was offering a BlackBerry Curve for a net profit of $50. Who wouldn’t pick up on that deal? They are GIVING YOU A PHONE AND $50!!! Then simply said, you could sell that phone for around $400 at the time, and turn around and get an iPhone. That isn’t crooked or sneaky…it is smart business. Buy something low, and sell high.

robert on October 19, 2008 Good luck with getting to the bottom of this, and if you see that Nick guy kick in the nuts once for me.

Just another example of the mob mentality, and assault.

Jester on October 19, 2008 I’ve met Nick a couple of times, and have many mutual friends with him. Nick may be many things, including a complete drama queen, but I have never heard anyone ever accuse him of stealing anything or being dishonest.

That being said, it’s entirely possible that his friend took your phone.

On the other hand, it sounds like there were far more people there than you could keep track of, and while it’s totally shitty that your phone was taken, you have to admit that leaving a $500 small piece of popular electronic equipment laying around in plain view was not your smartest moment. It sucks, but ultimately it’s your responsibility and your lesson to learn for the future.

And publicly accusing people of a felony without any more evidence than a “queasy feeling” in your stomach is grounds for a libel suit.

Just sayin’

I have met Jester a few times and he has known more intimate details of my life then most people. He knew me…the real me before I even came out. In Tara’s post and in comments people say that, "I am responsible for the loss of her and my phones." Why? Because there was someone there who no one knew, besides me, who may or may not of taken the phones. This is where I want to jump back to an earlier point. Ben’s past was brought up by Ben at the party. Who is to say that someone didn’t decide to use this as motive to put the blame on him and take the phones themselves? There has been quite a bit of finger pointing from people at the party, who I have never met and don’t know anything about. I’m not saying that this is necessarily the case, but it is something someone brought up to me today when discussing this whole mess.

Brad on October 19, 2008 One thing that is key in knowing if Nick was lying, look at his tweets post party. None of them show being sent via a application made for the iphone. So either he’s good at not getting caught or, he’s actually telling the truth.

If you know me, I’m a twitter-aholic. I love the service and use it all the time. IT SUCKED being without a phone and having access to the internet or twitter all day Friday. Here’s the thing…I AM TELLING THE TRUTH! MY IPHONE WAS STOLEN! I am now using my Blackberry Curve with no internet service on it and it quite honestly sucks compared to my iPhone 3G. I used to love Blackberries, but with the iPhone 3G and all the extra apps and 3G network…I don’t want to go back to the BlackBerry…even the new Bold which is coming out. The OS just doesn’t compare to what Apple has done with the iPhone.

Pat on October 19, 2008 What a mob mentality. There is really no evidence that points to NickStarr. Every time he says something on Twitter you all question it. It’s like no matter what he does, you question it. But nothing he has done thus far is really that strange. Then you basically spend this entire blog post accusing him of stealing it - And just in case he didn’t steal it, you qualify it by saying that he’s still responsible because he brought a total stranger in your home.

What about the fact that you had total strangers in your house?

I love how everyone has become an FBI profiler all of a sudden. Oh and then there’s there is this:

@nickstarr If you want to make this easier on yourself just meet me somewhere. Otherwise I’m gonna dissapear your ass.

Frightening.

Maybe you should start to question the other people who were at the party. It sucks when innocent people are accused of something they didn’t do.

Thank you Pat…This goes to my point earlier. There were a lot of people in that house. Why would (well first off) I steal my own iPhone and someone else’s? Secondly, why would Ben steal mine then go to my house and sleep with me? This whole thing is just so frustrating it is really wearing my patience thin.

Tara Brown on October 19, 2008  Someone overheard him at my party on his BLACK phone stating he was “at some bitches party”…..There were not more people there than I could keep track of. Did I mention numbers? Nope, don’t think so. Maybe 20 people at one point max. And I knew them all. Plus, my fiancee Sean and my roommate Eva were also there.

Lying cunt. Again…I don’t talk on the phone, I text you dumb bitch. Then wait…before you said that you didn’t know Ben, myself and a few others…Then I proved you wrong in that you knew me….NOW you are saying you knew everyone? Sounds like YOU need to get your story straight, not me sweetheart. BTW Tara, did you vote for the war before you voted against it?

hey on October 20, 2008 http://www.flickr.com/photos/nickstarr/2885162171/in/photostream/ Nick did have a white iphone.

No fucking shit…I stood in line at the SF Apple store overnight to make sure I would get the white one the night before they came out. Oh and my BlackBerry Curve…which again has been in my closet for months is titanium in color…so even if you want to lie more and say oh that must of been the phone he was on…it couldn’t of been, because it is titanium/silver.

I’m done…this whole mess is just too much…and guess what…IT’S ALL OVER A GOD DAMN PHONE! Tara lost her phone…so did I. Not one person seems to remember that my phone is gone too.

I don’t care what other people are going to say…I know the truth and the truth is that I’m as much a victim as Tara Brown is. If you have my phone, please return it. Thank you.

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